What do straight men mean when they say I’m straight but that was the best sex of my life, and hope to see me again.Bill
At the most basic level, no man was ever raised with encouragement to find another good man and settle down. When I was growing up homosexuality was a curse. Those brave enough to come out were rewarded with ridicule bordering on torture. It’s no surprise that most men would want to avoid that at all costs. It doesn’t get any easier as time goes by. I’m married and sneaking up on 60. Over the last 15 years I had many one time quick hook-ups, just a str8 guy getting a BJ…… then occasionally giving one back. I eventually I wanted a more convenient, permanent FWB. I found one. Now I’ve fallen head over heels in love with another married man. We’re both ready to come out but it still hasn’t happened. We’re deeply in love but for the time being we’re both “str8”.JoE
Men who identify as str8 despite having sex with other men, are having a lack of vocabulary. They can’t identify with any of the words we have because of the cultural connotations that come with them. They feel that words like ”gay” or ”queer” or ”homo” also requires them to be a part of a certain scene, and that it emasculates them.
They don’t have a word to describe themselves, and so they resort to the closest one they feel comfortable with – str8.
Of course, there is also denial. Many men can’t deal with the stigma of suddenly belonging to a minority. It’s up to us who are comfortable with ourselves to have patience, and educate these men so that they can make the journey we once made. We need to bring them to the truth that homosexuality, androsexuality, is a natural state of men, and that they are not a minority for feeling these urges. We need to lead by example, and show them that homosexuality is the manliest state you can possibly be. Pull the veil from their eyes as it were.Ben
I just discovered your website.. From what I see I love it. I am a single gay man over 60 and live in rural Arizona. Not many gay men in my area. Although I am happy where I live I wish I were closer to where there is a gay community. I suppose you cannot have the best of both worlds. Anyway you have a GREAT website. I wish I had discovered it sooner. You should create a gallery of photos of gay men, maybe even a way to contact like minded individuals. Your site is fantastic. Ric