So you feel comfortable with your sexuality, you’re certain of who and what, turns you on. You might be happy being described as hetero, homo, bi, or trans sexual, there again you might prefer the often vague, but equally satisfactory, “I’m just me”. However for those of you seeking a more specific name for your sexual predilections, or who feel the commonly used sexual labels don’t quite fit your own peculiar form of sexual expression, help is at hand. Dillon Toyne explains
In your search for answers you’ve visited the sex-shops around Soho, read the Karma Sutra, and even watched the odd bizarre porno film. But if you thought spicing up your sex-life involves dressing up in leather, contorting your body into impossible positions and having your genitals tickled with a feather while you shout “yeah baby, harder, harder”, then think again. The diverse world of sex is full of surprises and pleasures for those with an adventurous or inquisitive mind. From urethral dilation to male milking, sex can be more than just getting your rocks off. In a world where sexual fantasy need no longer be something you just read about, bizarre methods of orgasmic fulfilment are frequently being sought by more and more of us. If you thought yours was an eccentricity without a name read on, you’ll discover sex has a long association with medicine and thanks to those good doctors, we are all labelled by what we do in the sack. Obviously, it should first be said that with all forms of sexual stimulation, safety is paramount, so be in the know before you get in the groove. Sex and medicine originally became linked in the late nineteenth-century when German-speaking doctors like Richard Krafft-Ebing and Magnus Hirschfeld, began to investigate the darker side of human sexuality. Krafft-Ebing and Hirschfeld could be described in today’s terminology as sexual psychotherapists. In Psychopathia Sexualis, Krafft-Ebing laid the foundations of modern sexual psychotherapy while at the same time revealing to a naïve public the hypocrisy of Victorian morality. Hirschfeld discovered almost one hundred years ago that wearing panties and a bra was something straight boys did so they could relate better to their feminine side. And long before those nice boys in leather came out from the backrooms and dungeons of sex clubs, Victorian doctors were discussing the merits of fetishism, coprolagnia (the drinking of urine), sado-masochism, and masturbation. Fair enough, they believed excessive masturbation was a sure-fire way of acquiring homosexuality, but they could also teach you and me a thing or two about sex. The terminology used to describe sexual types or practices and the plethora of names our Victorian ancestors invented makes today’s labels seem almost deficient in comparison. The early sexologists conjured up names to suit almost every conceivable sexual type, act, and taste. Where once there had being only a couple of deviations from the norm, the sodomite or pederast, the nineteenth-century medicalisation of sex created a whole army of sexual deviants. Karl Ulrichs began the trend with his “Urnings“, “Dionings“, and “Uranodionings“, not to mention those Victorian tops, bottoms and versatile gay guys, the “Mannlings“, “Weiblings” and “Intermediaries“. Ulrichs was also the originator of the “third sex” theory which is not dissimilar to the modern definition. Ulrichs described the male homosexual as “not a man, but rather a feminine being”, not fully male, or female. Today the term “the third sex” is more generally applied to those males (females usually undergo feminizing surgery before the age of one) who at birth are sexually reassigned because they were born with micro-penises. The contentiousness of such medical interference has led to the formation of groups like the Intersex Society of North America who campaign against the practice of reassigning a child’s gender before the child is old enough to decide for itself.
Although the hermaphrodite might one day become an endangered species, in Krafft-Ebing’s day “psychosexual hermaphrodism“, was the name given to those of us who are happy viewing both men and women as sexually attractive. But labels weren’t just used to denote orientation; the kind of sexual act you preferred also meant a specific name was applied. For all those gay women reading this, and who regard themselves as lesbians be warned, you’re only a true lesbian if you perform cunnilingus, but if you prefer to just rub your partner’s genitals then you’re actually a Tribade. As for gay males if you only enjoy licking rather than sucking your boyfriend’s penis, you’re performing homosexual cunnilingus and not fellatio. Of course, there is always coitus between the knees, thighs, or armpits, in which case you wouldn’t be a sodomite, but a very safe-sex-minded boy. Unsurprisingly the world of medicine is responsible for at least some of the extraordinary techniques in which we can achieve sexual satisfaction. Asides the psychosexual help offered by Victorian doctors medicine has also given us an array of sex toys, which, with a bit of courage, determination and flair, can be used to great effect. There is the speculum, which is used for opening particular orifices and one that some women might have already come across. Then there is the laryngoscope, normally used to view inside the throat, but in this instance, its use can be modified. Alternatively, there are proctoscopes and ano-scopes, used by those wishing to look into places where the sun normally doesn’t shine. For those preferring something more adventurous there are urethral dilators, metal rods used to dilate the urethra, and so reduce the problems caused by strictures in the urethra normally associated with old age or scar tissue due to infection. Sounds, as they are also known, come in carefully graduated sizes and shapes, Hegars, Dittels, Rosebuds, and Van Burens being just some of those readily available. With careful practice and depending on the type used, the sound can be inserted into the urethra to a point where the prostate is reached. For those of you in the know, this can be an intensely pleasurable feeling. Future visits to the STD clinic will be something you’ll look forward to rather than dread. If you don’t like the idea of a long metal stick protruding from your one-eyed monster, there is always the rubber catheter tube. However, you need to be careful that you don’t insert it beyond the prostate otherwise you’ll find yourself performing water sports. Another form of prostate stimulation, with or without the use of medical equipment, is “male milking”. The practice involves the insertion, usually by your partner, of the index finger into the rectum, or if you prefer to keep your hands to yourself there is the Pantra, the most effective prostate massager available. Once the prostate gland is located, about four or five centimetres inside the rectum, the rubbing of it will release seminal fluid from the penis, which according to practitioners will make your man more docile and compliant. Devised before the introduction of antibiotics to relieve prostatitis, which is an inflammation of the prostate, male milking is a growing form of sexual pleasure enjoyed, it seems, by many men and women. It is reputed that in America there are milking parlours where men can go to be milked on a daily basis, giving an interesting twist to the phrase “to be milked dry”. Another medical procedure which is experiencing increased interest by those wishing to expand their sexual repertoire is the enema. Although it can be a slightly messy affair, the use of an enema is apparently a good way of controlling an unruly sexual partner. If your interest has still not being satisfied there are always electrical sex toys, which unlike your traditional battery powered vibrator, do not need to be inserted to achieve maximum sexual pleasure. Vacuum nipple electrodes or electrical penis rings are available for those wishing to experience a surge of power to their sensitive bits, and offer, so the manufacturer claims, “a very intense effect.” History shows us that sexual labelling is nothing new. Although some of the names have changed over time, their interpretation altered and applied to previously unrecognized groups, while others have been dropped in favour of less specific titles, we cannot avoid the interference of doctors in our sexual choices. In a technological age where cyber-sex has become big business, medicine can still offer us a wide selection of sexual aids. Despite their intimidating appearance, medical “toys” ensure hands-on enjoyment can be more pleasurable than clicking your mouse. Finally, you might be regarded as unusual in your choice of lifestyle and sexual behaviour, your gender unspecified, but should that really matter? Isn’t it more important that whatever way you achieve sexual satisfaction both you and your partner are comfortable with yourselves and the sex you’re having? Nevertheless, next time you decide to have an early night and put into practice what you’ve discovered here, rest assured medicine has probably already given you and what you’re doing, a label.